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No More Desperation Dating
When you think about what you find attractive in a person, what comes to mind? Tall, dark and handsome? Blonde and curvaceous? How about happy and fulfilled with an exciting life? I don't know about you, but I would pick the happy, exciting life every time. While physical chemistry is important, I know quite a number of people who would not win a beauty pageant, but are so filled with life and energy that they draw the attention of everyone when they enter a room. They may not be the easiest on the eye, but they certainly are the ones I want to talk to and spend time with. ***Looking Ahead*** As we get ready for the search for our future partners, an easy aspect to overlook is our attitude towards our own lives. Each time I have found myself single, adjusting myself to the possible reality that I might be that way the rest of my life has seemed imperative. A part of that adjustment has always included building a happy and interesting life for myself. How you feel about your life now as a single person and the possibility that you might stay single, affects what you portray to others. If you hate your life, think that being married or partnered is the only valued way to live, and look towards a future as a single as depressing, sad, or bleak, believe me, that shows. And it is very unattractive. As well, that sort of mind set leads to desperation and neediness, which will really cloud your judgment when it comes to sorting through mate possibilities. How will you be able to freely decide if someone is right for you if you feel impelled to launch yourself towards the first person who shows a bit of interest? Staying centered and clear-headed is going to be vital to your future, and feeling miserable about your current life and prospects will really cloud your judgment. ***Three Action Steps*** 1. Start thinking about improving your life as a single and your attitude towards it right now. What are you proud of, and what do you need to improve upon, to feel better about your life and the future? 2. If you knew, right now, that you were going to spend the rest of your life as a single, what would you need to do so that you would have as interesting and vital a life by yourself as you imagine life with a partner would be? 3. While important to place priority on finding a mate, how can you move it to the side, and make your own life and its vitalness central? Though sounding contradictory, happiness with your life as it is now, and at the same time, making yourself ready to change it by finding a mate, actually provides needed balance. Your satisfaction with what you have will be exciting and attractive to others. You will not come across as needy, a real turn off. ***Want or Need?*** Want and need are two very different things. *Want* implies desire, but something that you could do without. *Need* has a desperate edge. Because you are looking, you will be signaling that you *want* a relationship and are willing to make space and change for that in your already full life. But you don't *need* another to make yourself complete. One of the best ingredients for a successful relationship are two people who know how to satisfy their own needs. They are happy by themselves and not *needing* a relationship. Wanting, yes. Needing, no. Kathryn Lord © 2004 All Rights Reserved About The Author Kathryn Lord, Romance Coach / Helping Singles Find A Sweetheart! eBk: "Find A Sweetheart Soon! Your Love Trip Planner for Women" Purchase ebook at: http://www.cafeshops.com/findasweetheart Want more? Get my complimentary enewsletter *eMAIL to eMATE* Subscribe at http://find-a-sweetheart.com/newsletter.html www.Find-A-Sweetheart.com / email: Kathryn@Find-A-Sweetheart.com 4870 Oak Ridge Road, Vicksburg, MS 39183 / Ph.601-619-0030
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